- Topic
My young daughter. She is such a sweet, caring, loving woman and also has been that gullible person throughout her life… She was approached by 2 women. They right off the bat lied to her and said they were with the church of god, did not fully give the full name if the church which we all know what it is… I know my daughter was truly looking for God. Anyway, she became very distant, which is not like her. I need some insight from former members or either someone who has gone through this same thing…we need some advice!
What worked with me was when family wanted to spend time on non holidays. It may not have pulled me out but it was a grounding
But if she is living with others I don't know what peer pressure she faces that I didn't (there was no communal living at least then)
I think the biggest thing is make sure there is a tether grounding her ever so slightly to something outside the church and make sure she knows she can come to you without judgement or I told you so if (when) she leaves.
^Very wise advice there.
Yes. I am also going thru something similar. Except is not a son or daughter, but a parent.
My number 1 mistake was that i would come at the person attacking them Little did i know, that this was only making her/him think, that they're in good standings with god. Because, when you're in good standings with god, you will get many attacks from the devil. And, those attacks will come thru your "most loved ones". – It's crazy right.
Anyways, now it is going to be hard for me to approach him/her without the thought that i would be attacking them. Now, everytime we talk about the church and situation, even if i'm not offending them, they're still in defense mode.
The best advice i got here was to smuther them with love.
In your case, She's young, and has been in for not too long compared to member who are in for 5, 10, 15 years.
I know in my situation, the family member that is affected, has only been in for a year. And, they're not supposed to celebrate anything, but for some reason they always gather on holidays, which to me is the same thing. Anyways, my family went ahead and did our normal thanksgiving ceremonies with no arguments. No pressure, almost like we just completely ignored them. Not in a bad way, just no judgment. And, i guess it just did not feel right, and the person stayed. So even though their mind is not in proper thinking state conciously. Subconsiously, they're there. You just have to trigger that thought. To reason somehow.
I personally think this is a strategy i can use for maybe 1 or two more years.. after that.. he/she will just become accustomed to not being gathered,and it will not longer affect them the same way it did the first time.
Wish you the best!
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.