[Joshua]

I don't know how many times I've seen this verse used by the WMS to try and change the direction of a conversation or to simply shut the conversation down. I also am also guilty of doing this at times so please don't think that I am able to excuse myself from having done this.

Did Jesus really mean that we should never judge things, people, groups, or concepts? We need to continue reading past this into the next four verses in order to find the answer to this. What Jesus went on to say is that we should judge ourselves before we go about judging others. He is NOT saying that we should not judge at all! Jesus want us to reflect on ourselves and purify ourselves and our motives before we take the time to judge others. Remove the beam from out own eye first and then we will be able to see clearly in order to cast the moat out of thy brothers eye.

Too many people have taken this out of context and now we suffer from a overabundance of tolleration. People touting religious freedom and the mantra of you believe what you believe and I'll believe what I believe has given way to the idea I'm OK and you're OK. Wrong people! If this is your thinking you had better ask yourself where is your conscience? What do I mean? Let me give you a really harsh reality check.

Based on the idea that I'm OK and you're OK you have to accept that Hitler was OK. How about Jim Jones, was he OK? He did what he believed was right in his own way. How about the terrorist that flew the planes into the World Trade Centers? You would have to believe that they were OK.

NONE OF THIS IS OK!!!

The only way to defeat evil is with LOVE. We need to love our enemies as well as our friends and families. Evil doesn't know what to do with Love. How do we love? One way is by not letting others get away with the bad stuff by confronting them. We must judge each other and in so doing we not only keep each other accountable but we encourage each other to be better.

I beg you brothers and sisters, stop taking judge not lest ye be judged out of context. (Please note that I did some self reflextion about this in the beginning of this post.)

[Rahab]

[Rahab]

When my husband was in this group, he said things to me that I never dreamt he would say. He accused me of judging him as we’ll as accusing everyone who knew and loved him of judging him too. But the reality is that none of us judged him. It took SO much effort, energy and mental acuity to choose my words so carefully with each conversation that we had.

I agree with Joshua about the scripture. I have studied this several times, have devoted a lot of time with this scripture, and the message that Joshua described is liken to what The Lord has placed in my heart.

I, too, have been struggling lately with an over abundance of tolerance. This is an issue that The Lord is working out in me. My husband is right now of a mind that he doesn’t interfere with how I worship and live my faith, so I should just let him be to find his own path. This is really hard for me. I feel so unyolked with him.

I simply don’t understand how he can be drawn into and be so enthralled and convinced by complete strangers, and yet yo disconnected from his wife of over 15 years. He told me that he could talk to one female member of his group so openly and honestly about the most private matters that he feels that he cannot do with me. If you all knew me, you would know that I am loving, open, honest, fair, and so easy to talk to. (My heart breaks just typing this).

There was a marriage betrayal tied up in our story too. My husband was unfaithful to me with a wms sister. Now that he is out, and the other woman gone, our marriage is on the mends. The one thing left is for us to be yolked in The Lord again as we were before, hopefully stronger. When we were in the thick of things, I had many friends and family members tell me that the marriage betrayal cannot be tolerated and has to be dealt with. Once that is better, you can live with your religious differences. I have been struggling with that, because I can’t just live with it. He separated us, our relationship as a couple with God all on his own without discussing it with me. Should I, as a spouse, be tolerant of his now, “I’m o.k. You are o.k. attitude”?

I am a flawed human being. I do not claim to be perfect or ever will be. The Lord has worked a lot of things out of me, though, and is leading me down the path or righteousness all to His glory. I feel that there is more to come that He is to work out of me. I keep praying that The Lord will work out the troubles that my husband is going through, if any.

Thanks for letting me get so personal and venting to you all.

Grace and peace to you…

[KC]

usually its them who do the judging ALOT.

[Joshua]

When my loved one was in the WMSCOG I got this thrown at me several times.