In our last segment we learned how the WMSCOG tried to pressure our correspondent from New Jersey into signing a non-disclosure agreement. Now, in our fifth and final section of our five part series, we learn of the ruin wrought to our correspondent’s marriage by her husband’s heavy involvement in the WMSCOG:
After my meeting with the WMSCOG, things between my husband and I would only get worse. My husband admitted that he had already made up his mind. There was no doubt in his mind that I had been posting “lies about the church” on the internet. My husband went as far as to accuse me of turning against God.
As the days went on, it seemed that his involvement in the WMSCOG continued to turn my husband against me. My husband became less attentive and less affectionate towards me. Our anniversary was fast approaching and my husband seemed disinterested in making plans to do something special. I suggested that we go away for a couple of days and he refused. He explained that he could not be away from the WMSCOG because “father was coming soon” and he needed to be ready when the time came. On the day of our one year anniversary, he still hadn’t committed to any plans or even made any suggestions about what we would be doing together. We subsequently spent the early part of the day arguing. He finally admitted that he felt guilty spending any time with me after I posted “lies about the church” on the internet. He left and spent the rest of the day and evening at the WMSCOG. I was no longer worthy of his time.
The next day, my husband took me out to dinner and gave me a card in which he wrote that we had enough love to make it through. Just when I thought that things between us would get better, he informs me that he had been recently chosen to participate in an intense Bible study training course where he would learn to teach 30 subjects in 30 days. That would mean that he would spend every day in the WMSCOG until very late at night and all day Sunday being tested from 9am to 6pm in the afternoon. I thought that it was pretty convenient that he would be “chosen” for this “intense training” that would make it nearly impossible for us to see each other, not too long after I was kicked out. The goal of this training sounded unrealistic and seemed like a ploy to set members up to fail. Why not set unattainable goals for your members to keep them focused, working hard, and feeling guilty and inadequate when they can not meet your demands?
Now going to the WMSCOG right after working and coming home after midnight was not enough. My husband would also stay up reading the WMSCOG books until almost 2 am. Then he would wake up at 5 am to pray. The WMSCOG was keeping the both of us sleep deprived. The strain on our marriage continued.
My husband had always told me that he wanted to have children and start a family. This was no longer the case after I was kicked out of the WMSCOG. He told me that he would not bring a child into this world and have the child’s blood on his hands because he knew that I would not allow our child to be baptized by the WMSCOG, and thus they’d be “spiritually dead”. So our plans to have a family were no longer important either.
At this point, things seemed to be hopeless. I wasn’t spending any time with my husband because he was never home. When he was home, he would pretend that I didn’t even exist. How could my husband of only one year, who I believed loved me very much before, have so much resentment for me only 6 months after I initially left the WMSCOG? A few weeks after our anniversary, my husband informed me that he no longer wanted to be with me. He decided that it would be best for the both of us since he felt that we would never agree about his involvement with the WMSCOG. He admitted that “the church was always the problem” and he would under no circumstances compromise the amount of time he spent at the WMSCOG in order to try and work on our marriage.
I was at my wits end. I believe that this was what the WMSCOG wanted all along. Why else would they have pushed him so hard? Why would they go on the internet and try to monitor my personal activity? Why would they want to track down my IP address? And what about the way that the WMSCOG pastor threatened me during the meeting? How could he just ignore their distasteful behavior? I tried everything to get my husband to see the contradictions to no avail. I just couldn’t take the emotional abuse and neglect anymore and about a week later, I gave my husband an ultimatum. It was the cult or me. He chose the WMSCOG and moved out again that very evening.
I am completely heart-broken over the decision that my husband made to just abandon me the way that he did. He rarely even speaks to me these days. He says that it upsets him that I speak out about my experience with the WMSCOG and how it destroyed our marriage. But if I can help even one person out there to avoid the pain and suffering that I am enduring because of this destructive organization, then it is worth the embarrassment of posting my story online for everyone to read.
I love my husband very much and all I can do now is pray that he wakes up and returns home soon.
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